Changing The Mentality Of Our Black Community

I had the pleasure of listening to a internet radio show the other night, and what intrigued me more than the topic it self was that it was an all male panel. Their topic, "Who's Raising Your Kids"? The discussion covered why there where so many children in black society growing up without a father and the effects this crazy reality was having on our black communities. They discussed the strain of the absentee parent placed on the household as well. But then the tables turned and one of the panelist made mention and reference to these women having babies out of wedlock, to, bitches and hoes and how he as a man did not want the responsibility of a child that was not his, no matter what the situation was. The conversation went on discussing the failures of these particular women in their choice of men whom they were making these babies with. I thought in a perfect world every child would have a father that wanted, loved and was responsible for them.

I chimed in via the social media outlet provided and posed these questions, at what point do you as a man take on some responsibility and protect yourself from those women whom you feel are thirsty or who have set out to trap you into unwanted fatherhood? At what point do you take responsibility your actions as a participant and say to her "My sista you are more than what you appear to be (a hoe)" and at what point do you attempt to correct or rectify the situation period?  Black women are more than the B's and H's in which we are so often referred to in the rap music and and portrayed in movies and music videos and in our black communities. I believe that black men should as themselves why do they desecrate the black woman by calling her the names that they call her. When we raise our level of expectations we change our mind set to do better to achieve better and be better. But as long as the problem goes ignored for a lack thereof, we imprison ourselves in our own foolery.

When a woman lays with a man without a commitment he assumes she is loose, easy a .... hoer, with low self esteem, he then partakes in the degrading of her character by calling her a hoer and treating her like such, then placing her in a category of unworthiness. But ladies it is our responsibility to one another to elevate each other above this nonsense. And men its time you too take some accountability and responsibility for your part as well. How can we grow as a community as a race of people, if we ourselves as black men and women lack trust and respect... if we refer to one another as B's and H's and thug Niggas! We are more than what society has labeled us to be and it time we start acting like it. 

Lady D.