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I am Mary Jane Too....


If you are as I am,... single... have you ever thought about why? You tell yourself, "I am an attractive woman, I have a good job with good job stability, I make a decent living, I have my own place, my own car, and I keep myself up fairly well... so why haven't I met my Mr. Right?" Have you searched yourself trying to figure out what could possibly be the problem? 

According to statistics 72% of African American are unmarried and 42% of them have NEVER been married and many never will. But, is that the fault of the black woman? Or is it that the odds are simply stacked against us, them... you? The truth is, the quality of men is the problem, not the status of the women. Many men are, unemployed, in jail, married, gay, uninterested in a serious relationship, or dead. 

I had the pleasure of watching "Being Mary Jane" for the first time, and I could relate to her story on so many levels... now, I've been married (for all the wrong reasons)and I have children (that I raised alone)I make a decent living, college educated, my own house and car; I cook, clean, and I am cute too! Lol. But, I am as single as they come and just as Mary Jane experienced, I have had my share of lying married, girlfriend having brothas or refuse to commit for whatever reason. I could related to her loneliness and her desire to simply be... loved.

African American men seem so foreign to me sometimes, meaning I simply just can't understand them or why many of them are more attracted to ass, than personality. I once interviewed this guy on my radio show, who stated he married his wife more so because she had a big ass, only to realize 2 kids later that the compatibility factor between them was none existent. 

I think that until more men begin to realize that there is more to a woman than her ass, marriage for a lot of black women will be far and between. Now, don't get me wrong, I know of a few black couples who are happily dating and some who have recently married and are happy, but they are few and far apart. 

Black love exist, but the question is, if you are a black single female, does it exist for you or in your future.


To be continued....

 I'm Lady D.

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