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The million dollar questions can only be answered with a priceless answer. Are black women today unmarried by choice?  Are there an adequate number of men available?  I'm sure there are various reasons as to why 70% of the black women in America are still single....with 42% never having been married.... but is there a solution? And just so you all know... I had to take my time and write this one... for I am a part of that 70%. I really wanted a real life snap shot as to why this stunning percentage existed, and I found myself searching for a solution... but first I needed some real life answers from real life men.  So, I took to my Facebook in boxing this question to a few of my male Facebook friends, I sent out text messages I even went so far as to set up a social dating site and posed the question to single men only from various backgrounds and so forth and so on, all this just to find the priceless answer to that million dollar question... I even had to treat one of the gu

I had the pleasure of listening to a internet radio show the other night, and what intrigued me more than the topic it self was that it was an all male panel. Their topic, "Who's Raising Your Kids"? The discussion covered why there where so many children in black society growing up without a father and the effects this crazy reality was having on our black communities. They discussed the strain of the absentee parent placed on the household as well. But then the tables turned and one of the panelist made mention and reference to these women having babies out of wedlock, to, bitches and hoes and how he as a man did not want the responsibility of a child that was not his, no matter what the situation was. The conversation went on discussing the failures of these particular women in their choice of men whom they were making these babies with. I thought in a perfect world every child would have a father that wanted, loved and was responsible for them. I chimed in via the